Hopes are causes of disappointments. Laws of nature are difficult to master. A new challenge gives that spur of enthusiasm; but you will very soon realize that you cannot change the world. The drive lasts only when it originates at the top. It helps to be pleasing; it helps to be good. But you tend to get too involved and try to do totally selfless things; well, nothing is totally selfless. You hope for contacts or at lest you hope for security. You forget that people around you have their priorities and they have feelings, those changing weather elements, just like you. Slightest of their non-responsive attitude may catch you, leave you de-motivated. Alright, you know who cares for you. But, you don’t care for them. The wind blows the other direction too.
Disappointments reduce your enthusiasm. The qualities that you hoped for are now murdered by yourself. You become obvious. People say you are tired, then out of mood, then disturbed and finally crazy. You raised your standards. You had chosen to be enthusiastic. You had thought that you were smoothly on your path, with no expectations; nothing to bother you. You were prepared to work hard and you did work hard. You enjoyed your work truly and sincerely. You thought, just thought, assumed that you were true and sincere to yourself. When the slightest indication suggested that you were not important for a place, you lost your enthusiasm. You started questioning your own objectives. You realized you were not truly selfless.
Now you are in search of ideals. You are confused. You want to know how to spring back. You tell yourself that this is not like you. But you ask yourself where did you go wrong? You think if it is really possible to be truly selfless. You get several thoughts: care for those who care you. Don’t get too involved with work, after all, to whom or for what reason you must choose to be involved. You know you are safe today. You know you should be, you prefer to be safe in future. You realize your excessive involvement over present stopped you from being and getting prepared for future. So, where is your future? Well, the joy of present is required but preparation for future is important. Ideally these should not be different. Hunt for those commonalities between what you are enjoying to do today and how you could use the same thing to strengthen your future.
You understand that you are still hopeful but this time thought, the hopes are only that you continue to ensure you will do what you enjoy in future. There will be distractions. Your milieu will try to impose new ideals new hopes. The vicious cycle will start again only to be disappointed, deprived of enthusiasm, compelled to react obviously abnormal and if brains refuse to remain silent, you try to recuperate.
Now that you have identified your new hope – the similarities between the joy of present and safety of tomorrow, you need to ensure you avoid distractions. If it were so easy, you will see only ideal crowd around. Accept, accept strongly, accept again that people around you have their own priorities. Your ideals cannot be impressive to all. So, never hope that you will be appreciated automatically for all good work you do. Don’t let these appreciations drive your enthusiasm. When you are depressed you sometimes feel you need a person to talk to, just to turn your mind. Of course, most times you want to be alone. Same happens with others. Be compassionate. Talk to people around you. Do remember, you are not talking to them because you expect them to come to talk to you i.e., reciprocate when you are in distress. No, absolutely not. You just find joy and a feeling of satisfaction today. But, is this anyway related to the safety of your future? Something tells you, yes. You know, appreciate and trust that you must become more competent in what you enjoy to do. You want to settle down. You want to increase your joy by repeating where’s, how’s of joy. Your definition of joy gets refined. You are happy to be existent. Back to being compassionate, this is a joy and you want to be doing it. You want to be trustworthy, but cautiously trustworthy. You don’t want to be indispensable. Being trustable is just a quality, that’s not joy for you. Joy was still in instilling good thoughts, be motivating to others. So, should you wait till they come to you asking for motivation? They won’t. You should also not go hunting for opportunities. Just what, if at all you get into such an opportune situation, don’t miss it. Don’t let your mood miss it. The ground rule has some connections to “Don’t try to impress people”. You are then cultivating wrong hopes and souring seeds for disappointment.
Let’s say you see a person reacting abnormally. How should you react? In some cases, if the person has been exceptionally good to t you but now is acting differently, you should give him some time; let him cool down a bit. If he trusts you, he will come to you immediately. If not, after a considerably long period (reasonably, I should say) like after a night, the next day, try approaching him. If the distress has become maturity, by then, you will have a good philosophic and psychic discussion. If the distress is still distress, he will attempt to see you off as early as possible. You should consider sharing with him few bad things that had happened to you. If you are sincere, you will see the distressed welcoming you and then sharing his cause for distress. If nothing works, know that you need to allow some more time to pass. If you are depressed and you see nobody who recognized your situation, consider writing down whatever comes to your mind. Try to analyze and write whatever you analyze. Your mood will change. Know that joy of the present is not to be thrown away. There are people who care for you. Unfortunately, either they are away or they themselves are in trouble that they did not notice you. Find out what your cared ones are doing. Finding is good to do. Talking is better. Forgetting is more important after finding and communicating. Don’t build new hopes. Don’t encroach into other’s priorities. Understand that volunteering to help is only good if you find joy in it and you think you are increasing some competency that will give you a safe future. Enjoy sharpening your axe. Get into the process of doing what you take pride in. The stage is set. Go and enjoy. Don’t forget that life is a one-side contract. Only you sign it not the others!
